‘FEAR – The friend of exceptional people’ is an excellent read empowering readers across the globe in understanding and handling fear in their life day to day or long term. It follows the success of the author’s best-seller – Watch my back – now becoming a cult book.
In the book, the author describes the nature of fear and continuously makes references to his personal life and how dragged down by fear he made a decision to construct a ‘fear pyramid’ and confront his fears one by one. This reinforces that the book is not just plain theory but is based on experience and proven tests.
Knowledge dispels fear.
The book will help you understand your fears and teach you how not to be ashamed of being afraid. Geoff also talks how to use fear in a positive way of growing rather than being bullied or held back by it.
One of the concepts described in the book is what is known as The Jonah Complex – which is a what’s known as a fear of success. All these times when you started something and you never saw it through to completion…
Knowing yourself is understanding that the enemy is within and that society is the battlefield.
About 25 centuries ago general Sun Tzu has said: “If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”
The excuse syndrome – Fear never goes away.
I learned very early on in my practice that whilst we can lose a fear of a certain thing or situation we will never get rid of fear completely, it will always be there whilst we continue to expand. Rather we learn to recognize and control fear deeming it a powerful tool which aids us in our response to confrontation.
The positive body accelerator is Action. As you would expect the opposite is inaction which translates into panic. Psychologists call it – Fight or Flight syndrome and this is also confirmed by the chemicals released from the adrenal glands in your body.
Slow-released Adrenaline – Think-Confrontation Fear
Slow-to-Medium Release – Pre/Post-Confrontation Fear = fear of consequences/failure/success/himiliation – some anticipation
Fast-Released Adrenaline – Pre-confrontation fear = no anticipation – intense, person freezes in the face of confrontation; sheer terror.
Secondary Adrenaline – In-Confrontation = Additional adrenaline/stress while in confrontation
Slow-released Adrenaline – Post-Confrontation – Fear of consequences
The duck syndrome – hiding fear like a duck hides its clappers in the water; An old sage once said: When ignorance is mutual, confidence is king.
Some of the natural bodily reactions to fear:
- Pre-fight shakes
- Dry mouth
- Voice quiver
- Tunnel vision
- Sweaty palms and forehead
- Bowel Loosening
- Yellow Fever
- Time Distortion
- Restless nights
- No appetite
- Increased heart rate
I would strongly recommend reading the book to anyone, as anyone who claims to be fearless is either deluded or lying and I am certain that it will be helpful and uplifting for the majority of people who read it. I would like to conclude with the following citation by Franklin D. Roosevelt – “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”
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